Monday, July 18, 2011

SuperIma MONDAY check-in (oy): How Does Anyone Do This?

This week, unfortunately, I'm sharing the Check-In of Despair. For motivation and inspiration to be a *healthy* human being, run over to Shannon and Amanda's blogs. They both checked in on time, and seem to be doing okay. *sigh.*

I think I have finally reached my breaking point. I am overwhelmed. SO overwhelmed. And all I do is watch the kids, keep the house, and work a little bit. But the "work" isn't work, per se, because I'm not getting paid for it. So it's a hobby, I guess.

My kids are miserable. And it's not because I don't do stuff with them. Last week we did some activity every day. We went to the farm, and the water fountains, and the North Market. We went for walks around the block. We fingerpainted. We played in the pool in the backyard.

Still, they are bored as all get out and acting up. Asher is throwing temper tantrums and hitting everyone. Rami follows me around like a lost puppy, saying the same thing over and over again until I repeat what he's saying. (This morning the phrase was "What's my butt doing?" Charming.) Nesyah is throwing a tantrum over E-V-E-R-Y-T-H-I-N-G, often slamming herself into furniture, the wall, or the floor and injuring herself in the process. Asher and Rami are *constantly* crying and whining about something. No one says "please" or "thank you." Every mealtime and bedtime is an all-out battle to get the kids to stay at the table or in their beds without screaming or pounding on something, or injuring one another.

This morning,  by 9:00, I:
Worked out and showered.
Did a half hour's work on a book I'm critiquing (not that strenuous, this lady is ready to publish I think)
Made breakfast, lunch, and dinner for everyone.
Did a load of laundry
Mixed, kneaded, and baked a batch of challah
Unloaded the dishwasher and cleaned the kitchen
Fed the children and got them dressed.

But I still have to:
Find two different doctors (we're new to the area) and make  appointments for everyone
Print and fill out forms for the kids' s "school"
Find a dentist and make appointments for everyone
Prepare for a work meeting I have today during naptime
Arrange for sitters for a work conference I'm going to in a few weeks
Fold and put away three loads of laundry
Clean the bathroom
Clean the lower level for work meeting during naptime
Do *something* to entertain the children
Feed the kids lunch and get them down for a nap.

All before 1:30. Oh. And I HATE all of those jobs.

The kids have been up for three and a half hours. They are nearing the end of their second viewing of "Madagascar." If I ask them to play on their own, you guys, the screaming and the hitting and the whining is INCREDIBLE.  I cannot deal with it.

I would send the boys to day camp, but they won't take children as young as Nesi, so it doesn't help much anyway.  And that's money that we can't just throw around.

So, I ask again - HOW DOES ANYONE DO THIS??????

Yeah. I'm nearing the end of my rope with this whole stay-at-home-mother business. Can't do it. Just can't. Can. Not.

But that's not the reason I didn't post yesterday. I didn't post because I went to see the Harry Potter movie, and I wept, and when I got home I was so emotionally spent that I couldn't function. I did not expect that reaction. (Hm, do you think something else is going on?)

Anyhoo. It's been a rough week.  ( Excuse me, I have to go stop Asher from smothering Nesi with a blanket. Seriously.)

Supers, I submit to you this week. Nothing else can slide. There is trash and crumbs strewn across the dining room table and the living room. I have no idea which of the laundry the kids have pulled out of baskets and strewn across the floor is clean and which is dirty. The kids have watched a lot of TV. I sleep about 5 hours a night. Our meals are as simple as they come. I feel like I am drowning.

Hmmm. Maybe some commiseration would do the trick? Leave it in the comments, please. Thanks. :)


  1. Sorry to hear you're having such a rough week. Personally, I think summer is the hardest time for stay-at-home Moms. Personally, the heat really gets to me and makes it hard for me to do much with the kids. I've been trying to get us to the pool, and I'm fine once we're there, but the getting ready and afterwards really wear me out.

    Could you get a young girl, maybe 10 or 11, to come play with and entertain the kids a couple of days a week so you can get some stuff done. Alot cheaper than day camp and it might just be what you need. Just a though. Hope things get better soon!

  2. Hang in there -- Danny and Kevin go at it a lot. The other day I heard Kevin practicing in his crib, "That's mine!" "Stop it Danny!" "Don't touch me!" Unbelievable :)

  3. Ugh. I can totally relate. (minus the sibling smothering of course).
    I had to go to part-time hours at work because it was too much. Logan is crabby as all heck because he is bored on break. Its HOT and our air conditioning only cools the living room, so we've been camping there at night..aka no sleep.
    I totally hear you. I feel like we need to live close so we can trade days of childcare. I'll convince Justin to get a job in Ohio next year so that can be a reality ;)

    Hope you are doing well, thanks for the vent session :)

    Kim S. ;)

  4. (((HUGS)))

    I pretty much get NOTHING done. All day. And I only have ONE kid. One kid who is also bored out of his mind. And right now we are doing survival swim lessons, and they are right in the middle of the right now we literally cannot have playdates. We haven't even been to playgroup in three weeks. So its me and him. All. Day. Long. I feel your pain.

    I hope things get better for you soon. Love to you.

  5. Danielle makes the best suggestion - I love mother's helpers...they have so much energy and they're super excited to do things like spray the kids with the hose or read the same book over and over again. The kids think she's a fun new playmate so they're automatically excited...and I only pay a few for everyone.

    I'm trying to get out from under our two weeks at camp WITHOUT my husband, who is still up there for two weeks. And I'm supposed to be working for these two weeks...riiiighhhttt...

  6. You're doing the best you can, and that's great. Letting things slide doesn't make things less great. It just means things are sliding. But it's the best you can. I hope you're able to get some help. I'd help you if I was closer! :) Hang in there!


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